This month the focus of all my writing has been about exploring thoughts for greater peace in our lives. Think globally about the potential within understanding anger, accepting the we don't know, staying in our own business, recognizing nothing is personal, and you start to see how peace truly begins within.
Today I've chosen another one that is filled to the brim with potential for greater peace, and can leave a chalky, gritty aftertaste (some would say "salty", and I think it would be used correctly here) The willingness to give up being right. The willingness to give up The Other being wrong. The title for this post came from the first note I wrote to myself when I began the practice of facilitating Self-Inquiry with a partner. I was feeling super nervous about trying this stuff out with a real human, sure I was going to make tons of mistakes which would certainly lead to disappointing my partner. During the first call, I wrote at least five times in my notebook, "be present instead of right", reminding myself what I really signed up for. When working through thoughts with a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet, one of the final turnarounds of the initial thought is a prompt that reads, " I look forward to/I'm willing to" ....have whatever I just described happen again. For example, "I look forward to not being right" You will know the reasons that looking forward to such a reunion would be beneficial when you get there, and part of it is the same for everyone. I say lots of things to be funny, some sound flippant, but this one is sincere: We do not know everything because we're not in charge of the universe. We cannot know everything. Think in Carl Sagan terms and widen the frame, it's not possible, not even preferable, to know everything. so, then, what's possible in a realm where we are willing to not know? I can look forward to meeting this same experience again because next time I can recognize it a little more easily as my teacher. "Oh, heeeey, Self-Righteousness! Perfecting your posturing I see. You're looking higher and mightier today..." Next time the observer in me might remember that I am not in charge. Think of the energy released in admitting, "I don't know!" The very best we can be is present, resourceful and resilient. If I were a tattooing girl, I'd work those three words onto my body somewhere. What a lovely segue into the focus for February!
Please join me next month in an exploration of Self Care. What if your greatest duty as a participant in this life is to take care of yourself? Would you need to make any changes to the way you're living?