Those learning to teach, especially the littles, talk about the concept and practice of closure often. Anyone in a school setting is accustomed to a vacation in the winter, a vacation in the spring and of course summer vacation. I myself love it when the facilitator of a meeting gives me an agenda that includes the time when the meeting will end. These are all constructs that we've made up about time. We've assigned meaning to closure, closure is not reality. Thoughts are what change, ebb and flow, follow our intentions, while reality remains absolute.
I have found great healing in questioning my thinking around closure. When a dear friend died, when a friendship ended, when I have experienced loss in my life I have believed that with more time or more information I would have been ready when the time came. What comes to me, vividly, is the day I first rode my bike. My Mom was holding on to the back of my banana seat and running along behind me. Every time I started off, I would remind her to hold on to the seat, the whole time, that I wasn't ready for her to let go yet. OK, OK. She would run behind me, encouraging me and telling me I was really doing it! When I noticed her voice trailing off as we practiced one more time. I panicked. I looked back to make sure she was still there, turning my wheel into the neighbors' planter box. Sweet, innocent little me, too focused on my idea of the present to notice the present moment. My dear friend died. My beloved friendship ended. Neither happened according to my plan. I didn't like it, I still don't. To this day, I know how to pick myself up and move forward, even on a bike.
A friend was describing to me how she made changes to the way the littles in her care move from place to place after some greater awareness of momentum. She noticed that the children were coming to her as if on a current in a stream. It felt overwhelming until it became clear to her that the job was not to stem the flow but just to be ready to direct it . Where before she believed that the children needed to follow the schedule, she now saw that the schedule needed to follow the children. The idea to "go with the flow" isn't new, it's just that all the ancient knowledge in the world isn't available to us while we're focused on the problem, or our thinking instead of Reality. Closure is a myth. It is another story we tell ourselves and we'll fight for it. Finding peace with the flow, accepting the natural rhythm is what every experienced teacher will tell you is the real secret to "classroom management", and it's the only way to live aligned with reality. When the student is ready, the teacher appears.